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Friday 18 January 2019
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I will always believe a rape victim over the rapist

Until proven wrong, I will always take a rape victims side of the story over their rapists. I still cannot believe that there are people out there that still question a rape victim’s story because there is little to no evidence. I really pray and dream of a day where people in Namibia and all over the world start believing rape victims without needing evidence.

If I tell you I was raped take my word for it. I have realised that most victims do not speak out about their rape ordeals because people put them through so much and question the authenticity of their rape story.

Which I think should not be the case, imagine hurting and fighting demons and at the same time still having to prove your ordeal to people that continuously question if whether what you are telling them is even true or whether you are just looking for attention.

We tend to waste time going to look for reasons as to why a rape case would not be true because we claim to know the perpetrators that carry out these horrendous crimes. It’s always things such as ‘I know him or I know her I do not think he/she would ever rape someone because they are not that type of person to do so’. As if rapist’s walk around with words printed on their foreheads saying ‘I AM A RAPIST’.

As much as we do not want to admit it these rapists exist in our everyday lives, we see them, we live with them and in other cases we find ourselves in relationships with them unaware of the evils that flutter their minds.

Whether they are our friends, lovers, acquaintances or even family members we need to name and shame them. I am honestly tired of seeing young women and men take their lives because people tend to disregard their rape ordeals. I hate that family members contribute to victims having to cover up their ordeals because they do not want shame brought about their families.

I am tired of watching victims suffer alone in silence because there is no voice behind them that is there to say that ‘NO MATTER WHAT I BELIEVE YOU’. I just wonder how many more Khensani Masekos we still have to bury and cry for before we actually start believing rape victims.
This week my column was literally influenced because of a conversation I had with a friend, whom I told about a rape South African documentary I had watched titled ‘My Neighbour the rapist’. Having discussed the documentary she clearly noted that she was not going to watch the documentary because it seemed disturbing.

But to my surprise she came back and uttered the words I knew that it was fake, because she had watched another video that claims that it was fake. Apparently the rapist in the video said he was paid to say that he raped.

My jaw dropped in disbelief because my first thought was that she flatly refused to watch the documentary and went out of her way to watch the one that claimed the documentary was fake.

I am not against reviewing facts but it’s yet to be proven that there was no authenticity in it. However knowing that she refused to watch the victim’s claims and was more than willing to the rapist’s side of the story is what irked me the most. It just goes to show that we have failed as humans if we put in so much effort to prove that a victim’s rape story holds no truth.




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