Imagine going to a restaurant for the first time, you then grab a menu and order a meal that you haven’t tasted before but looks savoury. Another lady walks into the room, gets seated, orders and receives her meal in a blink of an eye, while you are still waiting for yours.
What would you think? Question if she has a relative there or perhaps how special she is? While you are flooding in a pool of questions the waitress comes to your table and tells you to wait because it takes some time to prepare the meal that you ordered.
Most of the time in life we compare ourselves with others because their orders arrive earlier, forgetting that we ordered something different. In today’s world we see comparisons abound all the time, especially with the influence of social media.
With just a simple click, you can glance at what someone has been up to and obviously, most people only post their highlights in life. But because we don’t realise these things, we put pressure on ourselves. We compare, wonder and ask ourselves why we are not at that same level.
We need to be smarter than social media and realise that people only show us the good side of their lives, designer shoes, “relationship goals”, vacations and work. The sad truth is that people do not show the entire truth about their lives. Believe me when I say that it’s not pretty out there. If you were shown the reality you’d be thankful for your life.
Also, when you compare yourself to the next person, when you are feeling bad and thinking, oh I ordered before this person, this person has a nice meal. Just remember at this point that all of us ordered different meals.
You have your unique blessing in life, I have my unique blessing in life and so does the random person walking on the street. We have our unique stories in life. All of us have our own individual backgrounds, our own set of parents and our own way of upbringing. The places we grew up in, and the experiences that we have are unique to us, and because of that; we are all on a unique track.
What’s most important is what you want for yourself and what you want for your life. Not comparing yourself with other people and what they have done in their lives. I mean, you can look on at other people’s lives as a way to get inspiration.
But don’t look towards other people’s paths to replicate, or think that you should follow suit and then feel pressured when you don’t experience what you thought you would. That’s because other people are on their own tracks, and you have your own track. For what it’s worth, as you’re looking at other people and what they have “achieved,” you probably have achieved things that those people don’t have. That is just unique to you.
At the end of the day, what matters is that you receive your meal and that you enjoy it. There will always be someone ahead of you, but the game of life is a marathon, not a sprint. Besides, God does not only bless a few, He blesses everyone. You are Blessed!