Just as Sarah Vowell had said it “we are flawed creatures, all of us. Some of us think that means we should fix our flaws. But get rid of my flaws and there would be no one left.”
This is very much true. We live in a world where everyone tries to be perfect and when they fail to attain what they call perfect they beat themselves up, they hate on themselves and they look down on themselves.
The sad truth is that no matter how hard you try you are never going to be perfect. You could spend every waking minute trying to change your supposed flaws, but you’d still never be perfect.
The moment you fix one thing, you would find something else wrong. You would be too old, too fat, too thin, too shy, hyper you name it. It’s a never-ending battle that I personally refused to try and fight.
Your attitude could be your flaw, how you walk, how you smile anything on you could be a flaw so why not consider that as the center of your shining personality. If others don’t like it, that is none of your business. You might have lost weight or gained, it happens. You have better things to do than diet and eat more than you have to. Gaining weight isn’t a big deal, losing weight isn’t either.
Also remember that you are going to have more flaws as you age. Unless you opt for plastic surgery, you are obviously going to have more physical flaws as you get older. It’s better to say screw perfection now than worry yourself to death as wrinkles start to appear.
You are going to gain weight, get some age spots, have more scars and lose firmness in all the wrong places. It is called life and you should plan to live it to the fullest instead of worrying about being perfect.
Being flawed is not a bad thing thus it shouldn’t get in your way of living a happy life. Of course you would wish you had beautiful straight legs or that your acne would finally go away, but that’s just who you are. It’s not a disability; you can still do anything without your flaws getting in the way.
Your flaws might weed out losers but that’s perfectly okay. Perfection attracts losers just like bad smell attracts flies. If someone needs to criticize how you look, how you act and what you think, they’re not right for you. The right people love you for who you are.
Perfection equals stress and having no worries equals being happy so which one will you choose? Personally I am happier with all my flaws because I’ve learned to own them. They make me who I am and I love that woman.
Nonetheless we all have our definitions of what perfect look like; it means something different to everyone. Ask 10 different guys what the perfect woman looks like and you’ll get 10 different descriptions. Why would you beat yourself up to be something that no one can even define?
Let’s not strive so hard for perfection that we forget that imperfection is happiness. Just live life and doing so means that you are going to have some flaws.