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Monday 16 September 2019
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Make it All About Love

…even when you’re Single

Valentine’s comes with that amazing feeling of being spoiled and having someone go all out for you. Now that is if you have someone that wouldn’t make you feel unwanted or rather the cherry on the top being that he or she will be spending it with someone else.

Now for my dear readers who wouldn’t be having any valentine’s special company like me this is for you. I know how it feels when you walk around the shopping malls and see couples having  it all to themselves or worse see photoshoots they had on social media. But that should not make you stumble because you know why you are single,

we all have our reasons after all. Therefore, it should not even make you want to pull a blanket over your face when someone asks you about who you will be spending Vals with.

Being single doesn’t imply loneliness. In fact Valentine’s Day should not make you feel like you have failed yourself simply because you are not in a relationship. We are always in a relationship with ourselves and just as much as we give attention to others, we also require attention to ourselves. We deserve the same love we give to others and there is simply nothing wrong with indulging in some self-love. You simply owe it to yourself to love yourself!

Instead of eyeing what your friends will be getting from their partners why not spoil yourself? I believe that there is so much that one can do for themselves. You can go for a spa, buy for yourself a box of chocolate or rather just do anything that tickles your fancy. You do not always have to be on the receiving end of fun because you too can create it. However, if you would really want to have some company on Vals you can still have it. You may want to have a candle light dinner with your friends or siblings rather. In fact I relate Vals to some sort of appreciation day therefore it would not cause harm to just show someone that you appreciate them being in your life.

After all, I am not asking you to embrace the world of loneliness; I am asking you to love yourself. I want you to live your life to the fullest and enjoy it. Be comfortable being in a room alone and not minding it. Yes, everyone is in a relationship, everyone is expecting a gift from their partners and you do not even have a boyfriend not to mention one that would surprise you with a candle light dinner, but believe me, that’s okay.

One thing that I should tell you is that you do not owe anyone any explanations. For most times, whenever someone asks me why I am single I had to hold my mouth when answering just to contain the sea of words threatening to spill out. The world may mistake me as fastidious but I simply find no comfort in meaningless relationships. Ok ok let me not get into that today but really being single is a choice and just because you are single doesn’t mean that you have sworn off love. So no matter your relationship status let this valentine’s fever be worthwhile.

Have a lovely Valentine’s Day in advance!

Womandla!




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