Lately, my thoughts have been drifting in the direction of how we act towards each other as women recalling various scandals that have circulated on social media. One that really forced me to write about this is the latest one of which a lady posted on social media lashing out on the plus sized models on the ramp in Namibia.
Having thought about all that made me conclude that the ‘pull her down’ syndrome is real and it is happening on our cost as women. This syndrome has ranged from women refusing to attribute other women’s successes to their hard work, to women randomly making up stories about one another resulting in the ruining of others’ reputations that took them years to build.
Now my concern is what is it really about the “pull her down” syndrome that sees some of our sisters not supporting and celebrating each other’s achievements and hard work? Why is it that despite gender equality being high on the national agenda of our country, some women are still reluctant to other’s efforts? Why are we (women) so inclined to broadcasting others’ weak points? Why are we always on the lookout for dirt on others?
It is shameful for me as a woman to see women constantly dragging each other down. It is disheartening that while we are fighting for gender equality; we are our own biggest enemiesand are biggest traitors to our own empowerment. We walk into rooms and compare ourselves with others, only being ultimately at peace upon conclusion that we are better than every other woman in the room.
It really amazes me that we are our own critics. We are the quickest to bring each other down, find each other’s faults and criticize a sister until she has nothing left to give and then we step over her and call her worthless. We take the prettiest women and tear them down for being cute and turn to the average sister because she should have taken better care of herself than that. We name the determined women as likers of things. We tell a big sister to starve herself and criticize a slim woman for not eating.
What exactly is wrong with us women? It doesn’t make sense to me that some women out there do not want their fellow counter parts to be successful. I mean there’s enough room at the top for women. Even if there isn’t we can always be like men and squeeze ourselves in somehow.
Dear women we HAVE TO DO BETTER! I’m not suggesting that we all like each other and be deceptive, but that we all try to respect each other. You have no idea what the next woman is going through, you don’t know what past pains have shaped her into who she is today. If we would spend the time spent tearing each other down to build someone up, encourage someone and cheer on someone’s achievement, we could truly make a difference. Please don’t be the straw that breaks another woman’s back. There is a woman out there that needs your smile, your hug, your support and prayer.
Let’s get rid of the PHD syndrome! Stand with your fellow woman, not against her…