One evening during a cocktail event in this our quest to one day become “somebodies”, I was sharing a light moment with a colleague of mine when a wonderfully endowed young lady walked into the room. Truly, she was good looking. This was confirmed by the way both of us, for a brief moment, paused our chat just so we could probably say hi.
Well, as fate would have it, before the end of that evening, we had managed to find ourselves somewhere close enough to make small conversation with this young lady and her friends. It was in that moment that I realised that indeed not all that glitters is gold.
The manner in which the young lady puffed herself up, and frantically brushed us off rudely declaring we had “better bounce”, as she put it; unbeknownst to her, she was speaking to the host of the event, and his lefty – yours truly.
I refuse to let encounters and experiences pass by without borrowing a leaf on the fundamentals of human behaviour, and this was one such event where I learnt something I would like to share with you; the importance of attitude.
One clergyman once stated that “attitude determines altitude”. This to mean that the manner in which you handle yourself and approach issues, is critical to determining your chance at facing the same odds a second time.
Whereas opportunity comes once, the elders will tell you that there is a craft where the same opportunity can be put forward to a later stage. This is done by handling that one opportunity in a very unique way such that you present yourself as a person worth seeing again.
This surprisingly also manifests itself in your physical appearance. I can assert that about 40 to 50 percent of your beauty or handsomeness largely depends on your attitude towards others. Whereas, identity is what you see of yourself, image is what others see, and this is equally important.
For that young lady, it is not the beautiful dress that I will remember, it is the attitude. People do not remember who they meet, they remember who they leave. This is the source of the saying ‘bright start but poor finishing’.
People that have good attitude are generally easier to open up to during conversations. The right attitude translates into a preferred personality making those who master this, far much more approachable and better to start conversations with. As such, a negative attitude may as well lose you a whole lot of chances at making it in life.
Good attitude also allows you a differential worldview from the average kindred. You start to realise the opportunities that you come across and the little techniques of accessing people. It is almost like a spiral of events starting first with your good attitude.
This also means humility in approach and speech make you more preferable for availed openings seeing as your positive outlook seems to others, as though you are determined and willing to achieve what you set out for. Godspeed pilgrim.
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