So you have tied the knot and have returned from your honeymoon. Now you need to set up home together. This could be great fun, but potentially also very stressful and frustrating, especially if you realize that your décor styles and tastes differ. To make matters worse your existing furniture does not necessary fit well together. My husband and I have decided from the onset that the décor will be my responsibility and the gardening his. But this does not mean that I can just go ahead and decorate our home as only I see fit. I always ask for his input and take his needs into consideration. Our arrangement does not however mean that we always see eye-to-eye. I, like most women, have a natural nesting urge and would love to have all the say, but remember that it takes teamwork and compromising for a house to be a home. Lets look at a few helpful tips on make decorating your new home a success and pleasure.
As discussed in a previous article, it is always good to know what your décor style is. This helps prevent you from making expensive mistakes. Therefore the first step would be to take the time to explore and know your individual styles. While you are at it, also consider things that you each consider to be important. These would be, to list a few, how important is neatness, whether comfort take preference over look (“function vs. form”), which colours you both prefer, do you need a computer station included in your living area, do you have or are you planning on having pets. The answers will help you understand each other’s needs and where you will need to compromise. Remember no one’s décor style is ever “pure” and is usually a mixture of a bit of this and that. With proper planning you should be able to combine your different styles successfully. Remember that the Internet is your friend, so use popular applications such as Pinterest to gather images and ideas for your home. Be clear on what you like and dislike as you go along.
Once you have a clear idea of what your combined needs are and the look you are going for, the next step would be to have a look at what you already own. Make a lists of what you need, which of your current furniture you wish to use, which you would be able to repurpose and which you would not mind getting rid of. Then make a list of furniture that you would like to purchase.
Remember that although you might not like or even very much dislike a piece of your spouse’s furniture does not mean that it does not hold a lot of sentimental value for the other party. Therefore be sensitive and considerate. We have a set of paintings, which my husband received as a gift when he started setting up home before we even started dating, and I hate them. But as I know they mean a lot to him, I have compromised on having them in our home, but had them reframed to suit our home’s style.
Include in your list paint colours, finishing touches, window treatments, rugs etc that might be required to get the end result you want. When selecting paint colours my advise here, as with all my clients, would be to stick to neutral wall colours throughout the house, and add color with accents, such as pillows, blankets, art and decorations.
As you now have a list of what you need and a clear idea of the look you want, you are ready to set out on a shopping trip. But make this an outing together. Choosing the furniture, colours and fabrics together will help avoid future arguments. Decorating a home can however become very expensive. I therefore suggest that you rather live without something for the time being whilst you save up to buy what you really want.
At the end of the day, your house should make you feel at home. Therefore include personal touches and items that represent you both as a couple. Start with some photos from your wedding day displayed and maybe a memento or two from your honeymoon. Continue with this through the course of your life together and let them be constant reminders of times spent together. Building a life and therefore a home together should be fun, even if it sometimes takes hard work and dedication.
Good luck and enjoy!
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