When a child is born, so is a mother. As little girls, we remember fondly our very first doll. A priceless gift, it speaks to our ability to nurture anything or anyone in sight who may need tender loving care. From the moment, a woman hears she is expecting she is filled with awe and wonder, fear and trepidation with a question frequently asked “will I be a good mother ?” With the first movement of a baby now a reality, she takes to the journey of preparing herself for her newborn mentally, physically, emotionally and financially. She also gets ready to a world where one must be ready to cope with very little sleep.
Motherhood is a gift that is unimaginable to any woman who does not have a child in their life. It is a connection that exists only between a mother and her child. Unfathomable, inexplicable – such is the bond of motherhood. Being a mother is a full time job accompanied by a lot of questions and it comes from within. The job description also seems nondescript and even random at times. From what we know universally though, a mother needs to have compassion, be present and have unconditional love in abundant supply. Quite often, it is a thankless job with very little recognition. Thankfully, once a year the world has a moment known as Mothers’ Day where flowers, chocolates and card sales soar through the roof even though some cultures do not buy into this brand of celebration.
Although, many may view it as ‘just another day’, it is one of those days that everyone should stop and take notice of the special woman or women in their lives that have been there for them through thick and thin. Why women, you may ask ? In our environments, many of us were brought up by a village whether this was in exile, the extended family unit or a close knit community. All these women deserve recognition on a day like today. The fact remains – everyone on earth still came from a mother’s womb. Even in the animal kingdom.
Perhaps mothers should charge for their contribution to life. The world in which we live place a high value on anything which requires monetary exchange and because empathy, sacrifice, belief notwithstanding temporary inconveniences cannot be entered onto a balance sheet, it appears of no value. The most visible token of the value of motherhood was during the crucifixion of Jesus when while dying, He assigned care of His mother to His disciples.
Now, not every day can be Mother’s Day but we can all attempt to create special moments for them during their lifetime. None of us live forever and no one needs the feeling of regret that you could done more for your Mother or that you could been more attentive to her needs. Mothers prepare us for the world of work, for life, for partnership and if this is done well the contribution to the betterment of mankind is beyond measure.
“I go through a lot by being the strength of the household to forgetting that I also have needs. This is what motherhood is about. By doing the cooking, laundry and much more my family don’t always realize what I have to go through to just keep it up. But I am blessed to still be here and teach them how to cope one day when I am not here,” said mother of five, Maria Hangula.
The meaning of being a mother is virtually endless. She is all in one. A mother is a protector, disciplinarian and friend. A mother is a selfless, loving human who must sacrifice many of their wants and needs for the wants and needs of their children. A mother works hard to make sure their child is equipped with the knowledge, skills and abilities to make it as a competent human being. Being a mother is perhaps the hardest, most rewarding job a woman will ever experience.
“I love my children regardless of how a mess they might be. No matter what they do or say, I stick through no matter what. I maintain all roles and I am also a full time employee still I am proud to say that I keep my family happy. I love my family endlessly and support them even if it means fighting alone to keep everyone going,” said mother Beverley Stramis.
Mothers are the backbone of their family. They pick up pieces and they make sure everyone is well to an extent where they might forget about themselves. Thus it is paramount to respect and honour them even when you have children yourself.
“Back chatting is the worst thing ever that a child can do to me. I brought you into this world and I can beat you out of this world too. I am glad that I taught my children well from the beginning because that is so disrespectful”, added Stramis.
Tips to show Mom some gratitude:
Show extra appreciation and give more validation for what your wife every day. Notice her efforts and say thank you—often. Schedule some evenings together, just the two of you.
Have a regular time to talk with your wife about each child’s needs and what you can do to help.
Give your wife a “day away” now and then. Take over the house
hold and give your wife a break from her daily responsibilities. Taking over for a while will greatly enhance your appreciation of what your wife does.
Come home from work and take an active role with your family. Don’t put work, friends, or sports ahead of listening to, playing with, and teaching your children.
Pick up your stuff when you are finished with them, help with the dishes, and do other chores—without being asked.
Say thank you more often when you finish a nice meal, or when clean clothes are hung in your closet or put in your drawers.
Most of all, you can put your arms around your mother often and tell her you love her.
As you celebrate your mother this Sunday, or her memory if she is no longer around – do it with dedication and honour. At least for 24 hours, let her know that you are appreciative of the countless sacrifices made, the prayers offered on your behalf and even the unsolicited advice on how to run your life. Most mothers mean it well, with only your best at heart.